So, you’ve been asked to not only be a bridesmaid, but to be the MAID OF HONOR! Congratulations! This is a huge step in your bestie’s life and it’s time to step up to the plate and help her out in every way, shape, and form.
Here are the top 10 tips to ensure you are doing your part leading up to the big day:
Be Patient
Not everything is going to be perfect, you WILL run into bumps in the road. Try to accept that although this is an exciting time, it is also a stressful time. Be patient with the bride-to-be, the bridal party, the family, and with yourself.
Be Her Rock
You are the one person there to keep her sane through the entire process. Planning a wedding is a lot of work, and she is going to become overwhelmed whether she admits it or not. Make sure you are there to support her and lift her up on the bad days.
Get Her a Special Engagement Gift
As soon as the question is popped, “Will you marry me?”, it is ALL about her from that point forward. Make her feel special and let her know you care. Buy her a special engagement gift (it doesn’t have to be big or expensive).
When my sister got engaged, I hopped on Etsy right away and bought her a ring dish with their initials and engagement date engraved on it, along with a cute engagement tee. This is a great way to get her excited and get the pre-wedding vibes flowing. I highly recommend checking out Etsy for fun, unique gifts.
Don’t Procrastinate Your Speech
Any other procrastinators out there? You aren’t alone sis. Preparing a speech is daunting and a lot of responsibility, especially if you aren’t fond of talking in front of crowds. Write down old memories, prep some drafts, practice in front of a friend or even in front of your mirror!
Plan a Killer Bachelorette Party
I’d have to say this will be one of the most stressful duties you have. Coordinate with all the girls, but remember whose opinion matters most: the bride-to-be.
Ask her a few different places she would enjoy having it. Do some research on a couple different options and get familiar with the areas. Look into things to do and places to stay. Compare pricing and always keep in mind traveling costs. Amazon also has the best bachelorette party packages here.
Give Your Opinion If She ASKS for It
It can be overwhelming for the soon to be bride if she is getting too many opinions from people regarding wedding details. Stand by her side and support her decisions, and only speak up if she directly asks you for your opinion!
Try Not To Bitch
We’ve all been there. Whether you are dealing with a bridezilla or not, there are going to come times when you feel fed up. Try your best to keep the bitching non-existent. Passive aggressive comments don’t help either. Take a deep breath and remember: it’s not about you. Suck it up!
Learn To Rationalize
Be the mediator through it all. People are going to disagree and the process is not going to be all sunshine and rainbows. Think rational thoughts and take a deep breath every now and again.
Enjoy The Process
The big day is going to come before you know it, and you will wonder where the time has gone. Enjoy the process because once the wedding arrives, everything will become memories. It’s going to be bittersweet. Embrace the journey to the big day.
Be By Her Side Constantly
Once the wedding day arrives you have to be there to help wipe her (happy) tears, re-apply her lipstick, help her pee, fix her veil, and pick up her train. These are the moments that mean the most, and this is what it is truly all about!
Have fun and remember that she chose YOU as her maid of honor. Fill those shoes and try not to complain when the bridesmaids shoes she picked out give your feet raging blisters. 😉
Xoxo, Victoria
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Kate says
You are amazing! The best MOH that ever did walk this earth. I am so grateful that I had you by my side during the entire process. What great memories! And your speech- was the absolute bomb! Can’t wait to hear it again on video! 😉 I love you sis! So proud of the strong, independent woman and blogger you’ve become!
victoriamcatee1 says
Still have to see the raw footage from that speech! 😉